I usually dont condone using other peoples techniques but you just have to concentrate on what you want the flame to do ,visualize what you want the flame to do.
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I have only one burnin' desire,
let me stand next to your fire
for me its different i feel like the flame is apart of me and i can bend it at will like i bend my arms and move my fingers to type or blink with out thinking...except when i do have trouble i do think about it...but yeah and the wierd thing is..is that i have a birthmark on my knee that looks exactly like a flame...like the my self symbol for fire..its kinda trippy but i like it.
understand what fire is and do your best to acknowledge the energy involved. Remember that fire is energy and that everthing is made up of vibrating energy.
(well you didn't actually say that but it leads into this next bit)
Try a month of daily passive training. Where? The toilet. When? Once or twice a day.
Your just sitting there anyway so get a candle (I like the wide ones better but the long skinny ones work to.)
Try just learning to sync your biofield with the flame. This does not mean burning yourself.
Get to a comfortable distance yet close enough to get the feedback effect.
Now shift into the higher self the gap between thoughts. (Be the observer not the critic)
Your intention before hand should be to connect and communicate with the energy frequency of the flame which is mainly in the light and infrared spectrum.
Do not even worry about fireballs or whatever to start just have the intention to connect and communicate. As you use your attention on the flame and your own biofield the act of intention on your attention will transform your desire into reality.
Just stay away from the doubts of the ego and become involve in the process and the information you receive. Some may not be by conventional 5 sense means. As you train daily or more your mind will learn to communicate and in so doing pay attention to the feedback and small pulses you get and the sensations that proceeded any movement and where they were located in your body soon you should be able to pulse the flame but pay attention to it first with the right intention and keep it light and fun.
I hope this helps.
-- Edited by Ro on Saturday 5th of September 2009 10:33:50 PM
i like to try and dim the flame and then make it super bright when its not really supposed to be that bright...oh and try thinking of it like a game sort of like and expirametal game...that how i think of it..i also think the flame as a person not an object of heat or light but a person with its own intentions become its friend and dont abuse it.