I have a "friend" of mine who I've known for nearly 10 years. I've considered him my best friend. But this guy has used me continuously for a long time. It's strange because I don't know what control this person has over me, but I keep falling prey to his demands. No one understand how he's able to have such control over me including myself and it sounds pathetic but for whatever reason I aim to appease this friend. For no reason he has posted information about me on the internet, gotten me in trouble with the authorities and has insinuated using blackmail on me to destroy things with me and my girlfriend. I've never faced such an anxiety ridden dilemma. How do I get this person out of my life?
Seriously? Theres several options here. This is my opinion. There's several approaches.
The dishonest.
"Dude I have something to tell you I'm sexually attracted to you if we can't be together I can't see you anymore." Blah blah blah You would have to sell it. He would probably be so embarrassed he would disengage. Of course unless hes secretly into you.
The god botherer. No offense to religious people. Whenever he wants to meet just talk about god and Jesus and how you want him to join you in your new redemption. For someone into blackmail he will run for the hills after the third time you ask him to church. BTW I believe in a creator however have noticed that certain orientated people will distance at this approach. Be persistent that you want him to come to church so he can be saved.
The fact that he has threatened blackmail with your gf tells me he secretly likes her and wants to use it as leverage. Tell him you have been diagnosed with a highly communicable disease STD tell him you appreciate how understanding he is but be really touchy feely. I mean get him a drink but touch his glass. He will be out of there. Cut off communications after that.
The honest approach.
Become unavailable. Make new friends and hang with them. You do not want to antagonize him. Disengage. Send positive vibes but disengage. Occupy your and your gfs time with alternate activities. In time he will move on.
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That's funny. I was actually thinking all of those exact same thoughts. I'm currently working on the last one. Thanks for backing up my original ideas. I thought they were rather abstract, but it's good to know we're on the same wave length haha.
well i guess he has the same powers as me. power to insert thought into someone mind. or kind of control them a little(like i can make someone not think about or think about in a good or a bad way if i want to, etc.) so i used this power long ago. i used to suffer A VERY bad case of halitosis(bad breath) kept this guy always around me for about a year with this. i made him almost eveytime forget that i have bad breath:)) it was quite funny sometimes. but yh this powers lets you manipulate people in many ways. its been long time since i stopped using it mindlessly, if u do develop this powers, yes you are allowed to get out of trouble and treat yourself a little sometimes. but if you know what you are doing is going to other others now or in future then please dontdo it. think about others
and about that guy i think you should teach him a lesson. maybe if you're strong enough use your powers to scare the hell out of him!
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